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Children: Godís trust whether in guidance or in care(1)

The child is the first brick in the society. If it is well placed, the whole building is straight no matter how high it raises and how great it becomes. He is the core of the coming generation; from it branches its  organs and parts. As the building needs engineering and balancing; the core needs the soil and the suitable conditions .The childís tendencies and capabilities need to be balanced: he needs the good soil when he grows up and has his talents crystallized; the sources of culture he receives, the civilization he adapts to, and his upbringing all need to be purified.

The child is a world in itself; he holds all the traits of life in its different phases: turmoil and tranquility, happiness and misery; intelligence and idleness, purity and malice, superiority and backwardness, faith and atheism, war and peace as well. The maintenance of reason and passion in upbringing and growth-the basis of manís happiness- must begin in childhood, since it is the best stage for learning the good way of life. The childís ability of acquisition and imitation, and his sense of adoption are intense, he can receive all his movements speech and actions with a accuracy incredible enough to be compared to the lens of a camera. While the childís body grows, his soul should move towards superiority and completion too. As his body is being cared for, so must his feelings and spirits be. He must be reared on cleanliness, politeness, honesty, sympathy, responsibility and benevolence and many other virtuous qualities as well. In fact, it is extremely difficult to change the conduct of those who were not accustomed to the right educational conduct during their childhood.

The happiest people are those who were brought up on the basis of good education and manners since their childhood. For this reason, parents play an important role in making their childrenís happiness- their responsibility towards them.

Imam Ali (p.) once said to his son al Hassan (p.)ĒA childís heart is like an empty land; whatever you give it, it takes, thatís why I brought you up on politeness before your heart hardened and your mind got busy.Ē A childís heart is white paper with neither a right nor a wrong idea; responsible fathers and mothers make good use of this fact to adorn their childrenís hearts with virtuous traits and good manners. A childís feelings  and emotions appear before his mind, so, one can take advantage of his feelings before his mental capabilities. All around the world, children are sent to schools after the age of four or five, during which their mental talents bloom, while his feelings and senses become active a long time before. A child who does not comprehend the scientific matters and perceive them can, on the other hand, perceive emotional matters which influence him, such as sharpness, tenderness, leniency, sympathy, compassion, respect, and negligence. The development of feelings and senses is of: significant importance in the educational matters. In the first place, parents are the most responsible for performing this duty, Kindergartens can never replace the family and the mother in reviving all the hidden feelings of the child properly and guiding him to the right way. In this respect, it is worth saying that parents must take care of their childrenís physical and spiritual proper nutrition, Due to this fact, the parents burden as responsibility is so heavy during the childís early stage. In fact, disregarding safe and healthy nutrition of the body and the soul leads to uncontrollable consequences. The childís development is completed in his early years; thus, his material and spiritual sides must be taken care of.

The shortage of spiritual or physical nutrition of the childís lie leads to dangerous consequences; besides, a small fault may cause a big problem which continues to influence a child up till the end of his life.

So, Moslem parents have to consider the religious responsibility they have towards their children, knowing that their children are Godís charge in their hands. Parents who fulfill their religious duties in upbringing their children properly deserve Godís rewarding. On the other hands, those who donít abide by their religious duty are betraying themselves, their children and the society they live in as well, and thus they deserve Godís severe punishment.

As a result, parentís only role is not making an enormous wealth and inherit it to their children; wealth would load them to concoction and misery if they were nit brought up well.